My neighbor said she felt lucky that she didn’t choose a major when was young because she knew there were certain things she wanted. When she met some friends who were professionals she had an idea of becoming a designer and she started her business.

A girl said she did all those things for surviving because she was alone, together with her child. Since she making a living by being sexy towards men she feels no shame, just hard working because it’s her life and she said she has no other choice but working with men, being nice to them.

A friend said when she was young she wanted to accomplish something, have personal fulfillment because she didn’t want to be like her mother, who fell in love when she was young and her life was just raising children, doing things like many women do. But now she wants, after accomplishing something, like her mother, she wants to have kids, so she can have both!

My neighbor said her life and success are always linked to fear. When she was young she supposed to go out and have sex but she feared people would say: “You’re a slut.” When she got a good job she had fear and thought: “People may find out I’m not as good as I said. People may think I’m a lie, I may get fired.”

A girl said her attitudes are changing because she thinks her hair color doesn’t have to match her nature. Now she uses different color for her hair, lip, and by trying a range of colors she feels adventurous. She still fears not being taken seriously at work because some color is still perceived as edgy.

My neighbor said she lived in different places, and felt she always in a gray area, because she was afraid to trust people for she didn’t know who had her best interests at heart; when she got upset by some people, such as moral dilemma, her guy cheated on her, she didn’t know what to do, who was right for her, even asked herself like, “What should I do?”

My friend said she tried to avoid being perceived as tricky, difficult, and arrogant in the workplace; so she never raised her voice because it runs the risk of being labeled, but she still had some heated moments and intimidating situation where she didn’t know if she should stand up for herself.

My friend started her business at home and now she has branch stores. She said her creation is smart, fearless, powerful, and boundary-pushing; but others said she sold herself because she’s seductive, sexy, oddly.

My neighbor changed a lot after having a child. Since she split from her partner she raised her kid, competed with others, and made money. Now people said she’s a warrior, not gentle, polite anymore, and she said like, “I like a warrior with swords.”

A friend said she worked very hard and tried to get a promotion. When she started to work there she found she may not have a crossover appeal and could not assimilate there because she tried to fit in, questioned yourself if she was in the wrong business and even felt hopeless, pathetic.

A girl said she’s changed her lifestyle and after work, she exercises, social and meeting with friends; she said she doesn’t like being intense anymore, so sometimes she likes walking around, which becomes her luxury stuff because she can think about challenges ahead.

My coworker said she used to travel, and knew her body well. She said she could endure long hours of walking and recovered her energy quickly. The trick was she thinking her body type was power-based, it meant she needed to eat meat, protein to keep her have energy, but now she’s sitting in office, worrying about eating behavior, weight and energy.

A girl said she likes arts, sports, but feels many people lacked decency, respect, sometimes they put down others and they back stab, so she said she’d made a decision: in order to be her friend, one needs to be polite, nice, not making anyone uncomfortable!

My neighbor’s sexy, powerful and her friend is not, but she feels her friend gets more respect, even she’s sexy-less. When she goes to work, to restaurant, to social with others, she feels she lives in a sexy bubble and even hears people call her a bitch.

My neighbor said she’s still working on being a normal person because people call her a bitch. Since her attitude, her divorce, made others pointing a finger at her, saying she’s a failure, but she said it’s her choice, a choice of being happy, because she thinks sometimes happiness didn’t exist just for staying in a marriage. 

My friend likes makeup, she said she worked for a company for so long, felt exhausted and finally got a promotion, which is her breaking point. Now she considers herself a late bloomer because she can say no to certain things, even though she complained about working there like a slave.

My friend said she had an early marriage and then ended up divorce. While her mother, friend, blamed on her stupidity, she started to date again and she became smart because she let her mother, friend giving her advice, and she not let boys being close to her body.

A girl said she tried to avoid being perceived as tricky, difficult, in the workplace; so she avoids to raise her voice, which runs the risk of being labeled even though there were some heated moments and intimidating situation; so she asked should she stand up for herself?

My neighbor’s pretty, sharp, and her coworkers don’t like her; but her cry becoming a resistance, because she doesn’t want to be judged by others likes, don’t likes, even though she’s sexy, she still doesn’t want to feel she’s treated differently by her look.

A girl said she accepted doctor’s advice and has a go-to formula because she missed out on many years of looking great. Now she embraces her skin tone, buying cruelty-free, environmentally friendly skin products to take care of her skin problem.

Some people like to make jokes, they may feel they are smart, but they may also feel making mistakes. A guy said he liked to made stupid-fun to his coworkers; he also making fun to his girlfriend, blaming her for her laziness. But she was not happy, she fighting back: she joking about him sucker of working, making money.

What’s Up: A girl said she knows all the things her friends do by asking: what’s up; she said they shopping together, buy makeup, jewelry; they also talking on the phone about their boyfriends, lover, breakup; but she also regrets something she’d done; sometimes she had devastating moment, feeling embarrassed, and she doesn’t know what she would do for her future.

My neighbor said she felt she didn’t have the energy, she started to take some steps, eat a real good breakfast: eggs, rye, veggies, banana. which provides protein, fiber, and a little fat. She said it can also balance blood sugar, and regulates her insulin levels.

My friend’s always wanting people to try something new because her passion is about changing status quo. But she’s blamed by her opponents because they said she’s radical, and she feels freak-out and she’s like, “What?”

Enigma & Irony: If your creation, work, were controversial, criticized, you may change your styles; but you may find out some same critics later like your creation, works; so you may feel you’re still an enigma, your work, creation, still remains a riddle, but you are determined to let your voice be heard.

A girl said she envies her friend and wants to be stylish. She always says: “Maybe one day I’ll die my hair, buy fancy clothes.” But it’s just “maybe,” because she doesn’t like to change her routine.

Conscious Learning: If your mother is a biracial person and you find your relatives live in different parts of the world, your conscious learning about your family members may let you have unique view point and creation motivation about fashion and business: a mix of different cultures, races, activities and fun time.

If you prepared long time for your high-stakes moment because you have an important interview, you may feel you’ve tried it like your hit or miss opportunity, but you may regret about your chance because when you needed all your talent, energy, you came short, so you feel bad, thinking about getting some help.

A girl said when she traveling, she found green life is interesting and wants to do something, but she doesn’t know how to have a long-term plan, so she thinks if she jumps into it she may not have enough energy to handle it, if she waits for her plan and her inspiration, it can make her lazy, waiting forever.

If your guy has many problems, issues, and you have a toxic relationship, but you still ignore them. Since you said you’re a victim, but you know what your friends may say?  They may say you’re such a sucker because you’re still with him.